I did a thing today 😀

This is the message I sent to my sister and niece.

The GEN Z's response (that's the niece, if you're not sure what GEN Z and X references are)

"I feel like you're living out your rebel teenage years now 😂"

What you may not know about me is that when I started University I wanted to go balls to the walls crazy. What I mean is I wanted an eyebrow + nose piercing, tattoos, purply greyish hair, and edgy clothes. I wanted to dip the scales from preppy to wild and carefree.

After years of attending strict schools that had a rule for EVERYTHING (even whether your hair could be tied up or worn down), I felt a raging desire to revolt against this suppression of self-expression.

"What did I do?" I hear you ask.

NOTHING!

I fell into the trap of worrying about what everyone else would say.

For years I was even too scared to cut my hair short.

Recently, I was on my least favourite app, LinkedIn, and I saw a post by James Clear:

Decisions are like hats, haircuts or tattoos.

**Most decisions are like hats. Try one and if you don’t like it, put it back and try another. The cost of a mistake is low, so move quickly and try a bunch of hats.
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​Some decisions are like haircuts. You can fix a bad one, but it won’t be quick and you might feel foolish for awhile. That said, don't be scared of a bad haircut. Trying something new is usually a risk worth taking. If it doesn't work out, by this time next year you will have moved on and so will everyone else.
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​A few decisions are like tattoos. Once you make them, you have to live with them. Some mistakes are irreversible. Maybe you'll move on for a moment, but then you'll glance in the mirror and be reminded of that choice all over again. Even years later, the decision leaves a mark. When you're dealing with an irreversible choice, move slowly and think carefully.**

So, when I decided to get a nose piercing, I said to myself, "Is this decision like a hat, haircut or tattoo?"

For me, this was a hat. If I didn't like it, I'd take the stud out and let the cartilage in my nose close the hole. DONE.

Do you know what this did for me?

It saved me hours, days and probably weeks of going back and forth on whether I should make this decision or not.

I wanted it, weighed it up, asked the questions and in a matter of 15 minutes got my nose pierced.

The next time you have a decision to make, ask yourself, "Is this decision like a hat, haircut or tattoo?"

And then work backwards from there. It'll save you time, energy and perhaps even some heartache.

If you need a few strategies with making decisions read more on the blog.​

Looking back now, if I'd had my nose pierced at 19, it would have meant nothing but me lashing out at authority.

Doing it at 48, feels like a gentle unfolding of myself.

There's a difference.

Bloom like no-one is watching and no-one cares!

And if you did a thing, hit reply and let me know.

Your blooming late bestie,

Lisa Marie

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